Fear is a fundamental aspect of human psychology that serves a protective function in a form of our egos. We create our egos to alert us to 'potential' and 'perceived' threats and dangers in our environment. However, fear can also manifest in the darker aspects of our human psychology, contributing to various negative thoughts, emotions, and our behaviour and how we express. Fear can drive and motivate us, so it’s not always a terrible thing. The following are some common darker aspects of fear in human psychology that have been reported in mainstream science. I know most of my blogs are more of the whoo-hoo side, but I wanted to put this one together for our logical minds, the part of us that still needs facts because we don't fully believe in ourselves, but this will come. I bet you'll find that you have experienced at some level at least one or more of the below, I know I've experienced them all in one way or another:
Anxiety Disorders: We hear this word ‘Anxiety’ a lot in our society, and it makes me so sad to hear this is on the rise. Anxiety disorders, such as generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), social anxiety disorder, and panic disorder, are characterised by excessive fear and worry that interfere with daily functioning. These disorders often involve irrational or disproportionate fears of specific situations, objects, people, or scenarios. Anxiety is all about feeling out of control of your life and what's going to happen. It might make you feel like you need to escape or curl up into a ball and want to forget who you are. Anxiety is horrid and can take over your whole body. In an energetic sense we are stuck in our own future fear loop. We can break this loop and also use this powerful emotional energy to propel us forward. Again, these fears of the future are where we feel out of control, hopeless to our fate but this is not true. We create our own reality when we believe in ourselves and when we believe in ourselves, we know everything will workout.
Phobias: Phobias are intense and irrational fears of specific objects, situations, or activities. Common phobias include fear of heights (acrophobia), fear of spiders (arachnophobia), and fear of flying (aviophobia). Phobias can significantly impact a person's quality of life and may lead to avoidance behaviours and even an isolated life. These phobias can be a learnt response to a stimulus in our environment from our parents or something we experienced when young. When we feel smaller than our problems, our problems will appear bigger. So, the best thing to do is to take it a step at a time and break it down into smaller chunks. There's evidence that this works. Just take it step by step. The first step is realising you have a phobia, the second is where it started and the third is to stop telling yourself you have a phobia. You’re just a little uncomfortable with certain things because of a situation where you felt out of control. How you respond to it in the future is in your control. Therefore, you were never powerless to begin with.
Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): The word trauma gets thrown around so much and I too tend to overuse it. Traumatic experiences, such as physical or sexual abuse, natural disasters, or combat exposure, can lead to the development of PTSD. Symptoms of PTSD include intrusive memories, flashbacks, nightmares, and hypervigilance, all of which are rooted in fear and the traumatic event where the body remembers and then is stuck re-living out the bad story as if it’s still happening. I see this a lot in my clients and in my own reality where I repeat certain behaviours in my body that put me right back to where it all started. The hypervigilance is one I know very well. I have been in a state of hypervigilance living, or should I say surviving every day in my body from as long as I could remember, it just become a part of me, and I never knew it wasn’t my body in its natural flow or position. It has taken me years of going through each layer of trauma held in my body that my body is only now starting to fully relax. Isn't that madness. It has taken me nearly five years to heal decades of surviving in the fight or flight mode. Now that I'm coming out of that existence it has shown me how much I was surviving and not truly living. This is what I'm learning to do every day, is to live. It sounds so simple, but it’s true.
Paranoia: Paranoia involves irrational or exaggerated fears of harm, danger, or persecution by others. People experiencing paranoia may believe that they are being watched, followed, or targeted by external threats, leading to extreme vigilance and suspicion of others. This energy is full victim mode. You don't trust anyone. You keep yourself to yourself and you give your power away to something outside of you that doesn't exist. This is normally deep rooted in childhood where you didn't feel safe, they parents or carer givers, sometimes even in your own home where it’s supposed to be safe. When we're in this state which I bet most of you can say you've experienced at least once in your life. Your body is always ready to run or hide. This is because there is a part of you that is stuck in a childhood trauma loop that you’re still playing out.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): OCD is characterised by intrusive, obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviours performed in response to these thoughts. Fear of contamination, fear of harming oneself or others, and fear of making mistakes are common themes in OCD. This is again about not feeling safe, so we compensate by behaviour in a way that gives us that sense of safety and controlling our environment. This is no way to live and the first step to unlocking this is becoming aware of what you are obsessing over. I used too and at times still find myself obsessing over money. This is a behavioural fear I have been healing for many years now. I would spend hours calculating money, it soothed me, but it was also my coping mechanism that that masking the real issue which was about my self-worth and how I seen/felt/thought about me.
Perfectionism: Perfectionism is driven by a fear of failure or not measuring up to ambitious standards we set upon ourselves. People with perfectionistic tendencies may set unrealistically high expectations for themselves and experience intense anxiety or self-criticism when they fall short of these standards. I think it’s safe to say we have all put a lot of pressure on ourselves over the years, maybe some necessary to catapult us to the next stage, but I bet sometimes it also stopped us from following our dreams. The saying – ‘we are our own worst enemy’ is so true. It is the pressure, the standards etc that we put on ourselves that limit us. We are human after all. We are not perfect!! I want you to say this aloud – ‘I'm perfectly happy with not being perfect’, repeat as many times as you need. Writing this blog for example I may not have done many years ago because I would worry, I didn’t know enough or that it wouldn’t be good enough or I would get the spelling or grammar wrong. So, I wouldn’t end up even trying. If I stayed in this energy, then I wouldn’t have ever put my blogs together. I bet many of us have had a similar story but let’s change it going forward.
Rumination and/or Catastrophising: Rumination involves repeatedly dwelling on negative thoughts or experiences, often fuelled by fear or anxiety about the future. Rumination can perpetuate feelings of fear, worry, and helplessness, leading to a cycle of negative thinking and emotional distress. Catastrophising involves imagining the worst possible outcomes of a situation and exaggerating the potential risks or consequences. This cognitive distortion fuels fear and anxiety, leading to heightened stress and worry about future events. Basically, both are forms of self-sabotage. Whether its staying in the negative thought loops or its imagining and feeling the worst is going to happen. These are all responses to our child self not feeling safe, sometimes even in their own skin. This can be healed, and we can overcome all fears with time, love, and kindness for ourselves. When you start to talk negatively about yourself or imagining the worst case allow yourself to become aware of it and ask yourself – is this fact? Then re-write your own story by telling yourself something positive and giving yourself some nice images about how everything is working out in your favour and for your highest good.
Existential Fear: Existential fear relates to broader observed concerns about the meaning of life, mortality, and the unknown. Fear of death, fear of insignificance, and fear of isolation are common existential fears that can provoke feelings of anxiety and dread. This fear comes about when we feel our life doesn’t have a purpose or we have had a traumatic experience around death. Basically, the fear of death can continue throughout your life until you actually die. This fear energy is similar to the fear of aging and that time is running out, like you can never get enough done or do enough. This feeling can have you in resentment of the things you may not have done or jealousy of those who have. The truth is we all die, that is that. But then ask yourself what is death? Is it the end or just a new beginning? Everything is energy after all and energy doesn't die, it transforms. Just because our body and ego die (which it’s whole purpose not to die) which, can cause us to feel out of sorts about the whole thing. I can tell you with certainty that death is not the end. When our consciousness leaves our bodies in the physical form it merges back with our souls. This process is where we go through our lives and then figure out our next move. We want to expand and experience, so why not do this as a human.
The origins of fear in human psychology are complex and multifaceted, influenced by a combination of learnt parental behaviours, coping strategies, defence mechanisms, societal and environmental, and psychological factors. Evolutionary psychology suggests that fear evolved as an adaptive response to threats in the environment, helping early humans survive and avoid danger. However, in modern society, many fears are shaped by learnt/mimic experiences, conditioning, cultural influences, and individual differences in temperament and personality. Understanding the roots of fear in your own energy can help you recognise and address how you truly feel and think about you and your reality. Only then can you heal your fear.
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Thank you for being here on this journey with me and everyone else at this time, its your time to shine bright.
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